The Trap Of Charm

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Not all Emotional Abuse is obvious. In fact, behavior that belies Emotional Abuse often starts out feeling good. Have you ever met the charmer, the smooth talker? Everything you say and do he finds adorable. Narcissists are masters of charm and sweet talk. His doting and compliments feel good. At first, you won’t believe your luck in finding someone so able to listen, talk things through and make you laugh. But, when it comes to dealing with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, you should be aware. There are some very typical signs and red flags that you may be dealing with an abusive personality; someone who has a seething cauldron of pent up rage and deep seated issues about intimate relationships that, once they feel confident that they have ensnared you into being emotionally, or financially dependent on him, reveal themself.

Here are some classic signs that you may be dealing with potential Emotional Abuse and may become prone to Domestic Abuse: He pushes you for a commitment early in the relationship. He says he’s been with many women and has “never met anyone ...
... like you.” He’s been hurt enough and grown enough from each relationship to know what he wants. Maybe you’ve only been dating for one month, or one week, or maybe you met on a dating site and haven’t even met one another yet, but already he’s sending flowers, texting and emailing you at all hours with outlandish propositions of plans for the future.

Another sign you may be dealing with someone with NPD is they buy you expensive gifts, do favors for you that you could easily handle yourself, and drop in to your workplace, school, recreational activities with the excuse that they are only making sure you are okay.

Jealousy, control and Emotional Abuse quickly take on the guise of love. They start asking you to skip your class or ditch lunch with your friends soon after meeting you. Beware. If you give in to their sweet seductions, which really are demands, Narcissists are paying close attention to how well their manipulations are working.

When a Narcissist observes how and when you will swoon before his affections, it’s a short walk off the plank into deeply troubled waters. All that listening like he is your best friend? He’s making a list of your vulnerabilities. Once he is confident that he has you hooked, he or she will use your vulnerabilities against you. The moment you want some independence or freedom to resume your career, outside relationships or even time for family, the NPD partner erupts into a rage of accusations and fault finding, saying he is doing everything for you and you are not grateful. Unrealistic expectations, or forcing intimacy before its natural course, often leads to Emotional Abuse and Domestic Abuse.

People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder who commit Emotional Abuse are usually unaware of their own behavior.

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