What To Do When You Are In Love With Him... But Not His Choice Of Diamond Engagement Ring

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First of all congratulations! At last, your lovely man has proposed and presented you with a diamond engagement ring. You were so excited and happy that of course, you said yes. It is a stunning, sparkling ring, a ring that anyone would be proud to wear. A ring that he chose for you, presented to you with a promise of love and commitment.
The proposal was so romantic and it was a real surprise as really you weren't expecting it. Almost everything is so perfect. except for one little thing. Even though it is very pretty, the diamond engagement ring that your true love chose is just doesn't look as fantastic on your finger as it did in the box.
It's easy if the ring isn't a perfect fit, because you can just have it resized. But what if your ring fits perfectly? You need to be completely aware that is a very sensitive situation, because he more than likely spent some time agonising over his choice and committed lots of money to make this proposal, he is seriously in love with you.
The Honest and Sensitive Solution
To help you come up with a solution, write down your answers to the following questions ...
... and you will see it comes down to two choices.
What exactly don't you like about the ring?
Have you asked anyone else, if so what do they say and do you agree?
Is the look of the ring more important than the love it symbolises?
Can you learn to love it because of what it represents rather than how it looks?
How do you think he will react if you tell him you want to change it?
If the roles were reversed, how would you feel about this situation?
Can both of you treat this as a lesson in getting to know one another?
If your answers to these questions contain anything negative about the relationship at all, for example if you think that he should know what you want, or you wonder how you can live together if your tastes are so different, then you need to take action immediately. Visiting a relationship counsellor to find the best way to forward is best for both of you.
If your answers tell you for sure that you love this man, you are aware that he loves you, but this particular ring simply doesn't look good on you, you know you will never really like it. You need to tell him, but there are ways to do this.
Emphasise that he may have made a tiny mistake with the ring, but he made exactly the right decision to ask you to marry him.
Make the idea of going back to the shop together an adventure, and promise to guide and teach him about what you like and don't like.
Assure him that if he got everything right in life he wouldn't have any room for love and understanding
Assure him that he is not expected to be a jewellery expert (unless he is a jeweller by trade of course) and he can safely leave that part of your future relationship to you.
The Right Solution For You
Question yourself carefully and then decide what is important to you. If you decide to keep the ring the way it is, then go out and buy a lovely wedding band to compliment it. This way you can make it look better and after a few years of marriage you can choose an anniversary ring and take the engagement ring off if you want to.
It may not be the ring you would have chosen, but the sentimental value makes it precious. There are more important and exciting things to think about now... like a lovely wedding to plan.
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