The Effect Of Divorce On Children And Why Couples Should First Consider Marriage Counselling Before Parting Ways

By Author: Tony Novissimo
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These days, divorce is something so common that it has almost become a norm for married couples not to keep their marriage vows. The current divorce rate in countries like the UK is shocking, and it is estimated that between 40% to 50% of all marriages end up in divorce. If you are part of the majority of people who think there is not much they can do to save their marriage, you are wrong.

Many marriages have been saved by marriage counselling and couples therapy, not only in the UK but around the world. When both parties are eager to make their marriage work, counselling is one of the best things they can invest in together. Marriage counselling can help couples professionally and effectively to address and resolve their issues and to move forward through better communication and conflict management.

Marital relationships often come under stress due to various reasons, but counselling has already helped numerous couples to find their feet again within their relationship. Counselling has also helped couples after years of marriage, to find new energy, discover each other in unique ways and enrich their relationship. ...
... Marriage counselling and couples therapy are freely available from many qualified and experienced counsellors across Teddington.

Just as there are many reasons why marriages end up in divorce, there are many reasons why couples should at least work to try and save their marriage, and one of those reasons is children. When parents experience the trauma of a divorce, they are often so caught up in their own emotions and thoughts, that they are not attuned to the trauma their children experience during the divorce. In this article, we look at five things children struggle with most during a divorce.

Feelings of guilt

In most cases, children feel that they are the cause of the divorce, especially when parents are constantly in conflict over the education of the children.

Fear

Children fear that parents who could stop loving each other may also stop loving their children. These feelings can be especially strong when one or both parents enter into a new relationship.

Exaggerated responsibility

Children often develop an exaggerated sense of responsibility towards the parent who does not have the primary care. This feeling can intensify especially when the parent plays subtly over the child's feelings and shows how alone he or she is.

Sadness and withdrawal

These feelings can become very intense, especially if the child has had a very good, extensive support network and has now lost it. The child may withdraw more and more from social activities and sports, and it can also lead to academic failure.

Anger

Children do not often talk about their feelings and pent-up feelings can lead to outbursts of anger. It can even later turn into depression or difficult behaviour.

Many couples stay in their marriage only for the sake of their children, which could cause more harm than a divorce, because of the constant bickering and arguments. Conflict is not conducive to mending a broken relationship and it creates an unstable environment for children to grow up in.

Parents have the responsibility to never involve their children in conflict situations, but in the household setting in which they find themselves every day, this is not always possible. Marriage counselling provides couples with a safe and friendly environment - away from home - where they can discuss their problems with an objective third person such as a professional marriage counsellor, and find solutions on how to successfully address their problems.
Book your marriage counselling and couples therapy in Teddington today and get the professional help you need to start working on resolving your problems and conflicts, not only for the better of your marriage but also for the sake of your children.

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