Wedding Gifts Explained

By Author: Schamburek
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There''s a rigid etiquette attached to wedding gifts, and if you''re a first-timer then it can seem confusing. Make sure you know the ropes before the big day to avoid any slip-ups.

Money worries: The first question that occurs when it comes to wedding present is how much to spend. There really is no set ''norm'' governing your budget - it should depend on your age, your circumstances and your relationship with the bride and groom.

Choosing from the registry: Many couples will establish a registry at their favourite store and politely request guests to choose gifts from this list. A registry can provide a useful starting point, but don''t restrict yourself only to the items specified. A thoughtful choice of your own should be equally as appreciated.

Gifts from a distance: If you know the happy couple well but can''t make their wedding, it''s considered good etiquette to send a gift anyway. Choose something that can be easily ordered on the web and sent through the post ? a bouquet of orchids or lilies is a great option.

Cash concerns: There''s nothing thoughtless about giving cash as a wedding present ...
... ? in fact, many couples would really rather you did. If you choose to go down this route, it''s customary to bestow your offering on the best man at the wedding for safekeeping.

Pick your moment: It''s a great breach of etiquette to arrive at the ceremony or the reception with your gift in tow. If you''re keen to send yours in advance then post it to the bride''s parents, but if you want to postpone your present until after the wedding then you can give it directly to the bride and groom. Don''t leave it too late ? six months after the event is considered the polite deadline for giving.

Receiving thanks: Most couples will send out letters of thanks for all their gifts soon after the wedding. You should expect to receive a note or call within a month or so ? but if this fails to materialise after a couple of months then it''s perfectly acceptable to politely inquire whether your gift was received or not.

Remember, when it comes to wedding gifts thoughtfulness always wins over accepted etiquette. Don''t feel obliged to stick with traditional-style presents ? choose something you think the bride and groom really will love, and you can''t go far wrong. Schamburek is the author of this article, they like writing about wedding gifts. To find out more visit the Not on The High Street website.