How To Talk To Women

By Author: Peter Mclucas
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When a pretty little lady at a party catches your eye, do you freeze or stride up boldly, convinced this time will be different, and then find yourself floundering? Contrary to popular belief, talking to a woman does not have to be rocket science. Your own lack of confidence is your worst enemy. Instead of panicking, learn how sail on the currents of conversation, and you will quickly find it is not as hard as it seems.

The single most important aspect of talking to a lady you admire is that, as long as you are talking to her, she should be the center of your world. Ignore your cell phone, set aside what you think is important, and give the lady your full attention. With perseverance, you will get her full attention back.

Whether you know the woman in question or not, your approach can truly be as simple as "Hello," or "Great party, huh?" An approach that immediately flatters her will also get her attention, such as, "I've been admiring you from across the room all night and can't take it anymore. Can I beg your name?" You could also try making a light joke of it, such as, "I hope you like bumbling I-think-you're-cute-Hello's, ...
... because it's all I have."

After you have her attention, engaging a woman is as simple as talking about her interests instead of yours. Ask her questions about her opinions. Everyone likes their opinion to be considered important, and it is easy to keep someone absorbed in conversation if the subject matter is always something they like. The "So what are you into?" question may be a cliche, but it is a cliche that works.

Maintain a healthy amount of eye contact without staring her down. Eye contact lets her know you are listening, and it gives the impression of confidence. Think about the amount of eye contact you use in conversations with friends; it should feel casual and comfortable to both of you.

Keep the conversation light and fun. If she says she likes a football team that rivals yours, make a joke about it. There are very few women that do not appreciate a guy with a good sense of humor. Avoid potentially controversial topics like politics and religion. Not only is that the fast-track to alienating someone with different opinions than yours, advertising your opinions on the matter is a good way to get yourself flagged as pushy.

That being said, never lie in the hopes of making a better impression. A lie now, even a little one, could crash and burn later on down the line. If she says she has been to Mexico, do not lie and say you have, too; if you have always wanted to go, saying so will make just as good of an impression as lying about going. If Mexico is not your thing, bring up somewhere else you have always wanted to travel and see if you can find common ground there.

How to talk to girls? If you think you have a good rapport going, try a gentle and quick touch on the arm when you are both laughing or any time you lean in close. A touch says you are interested enough in her to develop a casual level of intimacy. If she returns the gesture, you know you have made a good impression.

The more comfortable you seem, the more comfortable she will be with you. Like anyone else, women like being listened to, complimented, and being treated with honesty. Remember that women are not from Venus. They are just as human as you.

Peter Mclucas is an avid traveler, educator and writer on a variety of subjects. Watch his videos here.