Top Three Reasons Why We Ruin Relationships

By Author: Jason Lee
Total Articles: 6
Comment this article

The largest single reason for divorce and for the break-up of other relationships is a misunderstanding of personalty type differences. This article will present the leading three reasons most folks lose in relationships that are related to Myers-Briggs Personality Type.

1. We Don't Know the Personality Types of Ourselves and our Mates.

Most of us don't know that we have a personality type that is scientifically and psychologically defined. We confuse personality with many other non-psychological things. In reality each of our personality types was formed within us before we were born! In addition, if your personality type differs in certain ways with your mates type you communication, which is the "key" to relationships, will dramatically suffer.

2. You Don't Speak Their Language!

Very simply both people in a relationship can be speaking the same national language, say "English" but if their are opposite especially on the "Dominant" function area it is like they were speaking two different languages with neither understanding the other!

We will be "Dominant" either with the function we take ...
... in information with, i.e. "Sensing" or "Intuition" or we will be "Dominant" in how we make decisions, i.e. "Thinking" (using logic) or "Feeling" (using feelings). No matter which one you are "Dominant" in , if your loved one is "Dominant' in the opposite you two will have great and natural difficulty speaking to each other.

3. You "Talk Your Talk" Only...May Even Insist On It!

What most folks do who do not understand personality dynamics is to see the natural personality difference as something that is bad; something they do not understand; something the other person is "doing" to them to make their life miserable. If only they could be like me! Why can't you do what
I do, after all I'm right and your wrong. I mean basically this is what most of us do because we are ignorant of our inborn, instinctive personality and what that might mean if we are faced with differences in our relationships. Well forcing someone to be like you won't work my friend because you are trying to change human nature, you are trying to make the "instinctive" "un-instinctive" ( if there is such an expression). Can't be done, so we need to understand our personality, which can be accomplished several different ways and use that knowledge to allow our relationship interest to be who they are, validate who they are and if you do you will find love and other relationships get better and better.

By the way, the terms I've been using in this brief article are related to the Myers-Briggs Personality Indicator. Which would be my strong recommendation for you to identify you type. Now you can take the MBTI on the internet but there will be a fee. The MBTI is not free anywhere. Or, you can take a Jungian-like personality indicator which is very accurate and absolulty free. That is up to you, I hope you do one of the two. At that point, find a Myers-Briggs practitioner and have them interpret back to you what your score means. Your relationships will thank you!

In conclusion, we can guarantee the long life of our relationships, in fact we can create perfect love compatibility and perfect relationship compatibility by using the power of our personality type. If we will take the loving time to identify our personality types and those of our love/relationship interests and then learn how to use what we find so we can "speak" in the other person's language, if need be; then we can save relationships from and at the core. In addition, we can use personality type to find our "soul mate", find the perfect love compatibility relationship for us in the first place. It is not difficult and it is automatic when we understand our types.