The 100% Solution To Joy In Marriage Or Relationships!

By Author: Jim DeSantis
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Yes, you can escape becoming one of the 50% who don't make it. The 100% Solution is how to escape being one of the 50% that end in breakup or Divorce. And, by the way, the statistics are even more grim for couples who live together without making a marriage committment. So, everything you read in this article about marriage especially applies to live-in arrangements because, without a marriage committment, you laid the groundwork for splitting up the minute you unpacked the boxes.

I know you have heard - "marriage is a 50-50 proposition". This is a throwback to the flower-power 60's. The fact is, successful marriages are a 100% - 100% proposition. This means I accept my Wife 100% and she accepts me 100%. We allow the person on the inside to be the person on the outside, completely exposed. Absolutely nothing is hidden. Nothing is kept secret. No walls between us. No manipulation. And, most of all, No expectations of certain behavior or results. A 50-50 solution implies you and your mate are holding back 50% from each other in the relationship. 50-50 never works, not if you want bliss. 50-50 is nothing more than an arrangement. ...
... 50-50 cannot be a marriage.

But, you might say - "you don't know what he/she has done to me", "he/she is a liar", "I can't trust him/her". May I boldly say - "Get over it!". If you want your marriage to prosper, you must put away the past and start fresh because, honestly, you aren't perfect either. No one is the perfect wife or perfect husband or perfect mate. No one is without "sin", so-to-speak. No one does everything perfectly in relationships. No, not one! If you think you are the perfect mate, you may need counseling. Sorry to burst your bubble but it's true. No one is perfect, No, not one.

Now, this does NOT mean you stay with a mate who is physically or emotionally abusive. Do not be anyone's punching bag. Get away as fast as you can and get to a safe place, especially if you have children.

How do I know The 100% Solution works? My wife and I lived the 50-50 solution with our former mates and we both ended in divorce from our former mates. When we married each other we had some rough spots in the beginning because we both were playing by the old 50-50 solution. Then we discovered The 100% Solution. We have been happily living The 100% Solution for over 10 years with no stress in our marriage and no arguments. Even our financial situation improved because we began working together and trusting one another 100%. When we don't agree on a course of action, we don't do it. It's simple. Why do something your partner doesn't agree with? Why create stress? Support your partner 100% and they will support you.

So, what exactly is The 100% Solution? First, I will give it to you and then tell you where we found it. As you read it, you just might recognize it. Here it is.

1) Love is patient.

2) Love is kind.

3) Love does not envy and is not pretentious. It is not ambitious or self seeking.

4) Love bears with all things, hopes all things, and endures all things (except abuse!).

5) Love keeps no record of wrongs - it does not delight in evil, but rejoices in truth.

6) Love is the eternal tie that binds us.

And we have added - Love never criticizes, condemns, or complains. If you are critical of your mate, condemning of your mate, complaining about your mate, you are abusing your mate. You need help - now. You need help to find out why you are abusing your mate and how you can stop it. There is something wrong in your personality and you need professional help immediately.

Do you recognize the 6 points? We found The 100% Solution in the Bible in 1st Corinthians - Chapter 13. We have been living it successfully because we determined to put the past behind us and create a new future - together. We also go to church together and study the Bible together, but, if you are not interested in the Bible, another helpful resource is the book - "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by John Gray, PhD. We also studied this book together and discovered a few little personality quirks we were not aware of. It was a great help. You can get it from any major bookstore and on-line.

Try The 100% Solution and we know your relationship will be bliss.
Yours for Success in Life!
Jim DeSantis

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