Must Know Dating Safety Tips For Women Over 40

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As a mature woman, getting back into the dating scene can be a real struggle. It's a toss between wanting to get back in but doing it safely. We asked a panel of experts what they thought, we got great tips from real women, psychologists, relationship experts, dating experts, and criminal justice experts.

I asked the expert panel what tips to they have to getting back into the dating game
Do they have any personal experiences to pass on

The answers we posted for you below are amazing, here's their advice!

#1 - Tips For Dating Over 40

A great danger for women over age 40 is to rush into a marriage because of the inner personal and external social pressure to get married and have children. However, I think it is important for anyone dating for marriage to be smart and take all the time she needs, despite the pressure, to make a wise decision about her potential mate. A good marriage is, probably for most people, better than being single, but it is far better to be single than to marry the wrong person. It is also important to discover who you are, in the process of searching for your soul mate, ...
... because you wont be ready to identify or meet that right person if you dont know what you want from life and what qualities you want in your soul mate. Regardless of your age, dont settle for second best; instead settle for only the love of your life.

From Dr. Tobey Leung - Life Strategies Training - www.tobeyleung.com

#2 - Love Yourself, Love Yourself, Then Love Yourself Some More

Do the necessary work on yourself before entering into the dating world by jumping into the lake of self-love and self-discovery. Embrace those things you love about you, change those things you don't, and carefully determine what you need, don't want, must have, and absolutely will not tolerate in a relationship. In the end - you will emerge from the lake with a deep love and clear understanding of self.

Self-love is a woman's coat of armor in the dating world. When you love yourself, you will protect yourself. You will make better choices in men and take it upon yourself to learn how to date smart and protect your heart!

Ms. Edna, Personal Trainer to Women Seeking Love: www.msedna.com

#3 - Dating Safety Over 40

I am a real woman. I enjoy dating and these tips have helped me. These are tips I've given to my girlfriends :

The in thing for the under 25 is having sex with a cougar- anyone they think is over 35.
If they can only meet on weekdays or only for an hour on the weekend- they are probably married
FWB-is just that. Unless you have had the talk- don't assume you are both dating exclusively.
Keep your profile picture updated. If it's more than 5 years old- please get new photos- especially after 35.
Always meet in a public place for your first 3 dates- remember online profiles may not be accurate.
Always let someone know where you will be and have them call you to check in
Trust your instincts.

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#4 - Date Like It's An Interview

Know the things that matter to you in a partner before you start dating, then ask inquiring questions to find your answers. Ask yourself if you like how this person is walking through life. Dont be so concerned about whether or not they like you, that will become evident soon enough. If they are not pleasing to you, move on. Dont partner with someones potential.

Extend your inquiries over several dates, in a variety of settings. Go as slowly as you must in order to gather the information you need. Time is your best friend. Dont rush, red flags are hard to see when youre speeding. Go slow, be picky, and ask a million questions.

Elsbeth Elsbeth Martindale, Psy.D. - www.CourageToBloom.com

#5 - Check Him Out - First

Do a background check! Without leaving your home, or paying an online service, you can find out their financial history (ever been bankrupt?), criminal history (especially if theyÂ’re a sex offender), and things like whether they own their own home or how many times theyÂ’ve been divorced.

Over 40, we have too much at stake to leave financial and criminal details to chance. Our children and our assets may be at risk. If you find something questionable in your search and want the dirty details, just go to the courthouse and look it up. Public records are a wonderful thing!

Kim Halsey, MA, SPHR - Addiction Recovery Consultant - www.recoverytoday.org

#6 - Create A Buddy System

I coach single women and advise them to create a buddy system while dating. Make sure you tell a friend the name of your date, where youre planning on meeting, and check in with them in between ordering your food or beverage with a phone call or a text with a date update to let them know you are safe. If for any reason you feel uncomfortable, trust your intuition and leave.

Better safe, than sorry

Julie Spira,- Bestselling Author: www.Pendingo.com