Help With An Unplanned Pregnancy

By Author: Eternal Adoptions
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The term "birthmother" is typically associated with a woman whose child has been placed for adoption, although it is also used to refer to a woman in an unplanned or crisis pregnancy situation, and may be considering the option of adoption for her unborn baby.

Teen birthmothers often feel trapped and scared when faced with the difficult decisions involved with an unexpected pregnancy. Most teen birthmothers are most likely afraid to reveal the positive pregnancy to their parents. They also face difficult choices whether to parent or place for adoption. Some choose abortion thinking they will be done with the situation after the abortion is chosen. The effects of abortion, both physical and emotional, are long lasting. Of those who have had abortions, 94% regret their decision for a variety of reasons. It does not work to pretend a baby never existed; an abortion will not accomplish that. Birthmothers still have to accept that you were pregnant, they will still have to deal with separation from the child that was conceived and will still experience loss. Abortion may seem like a quick and logical solution, but the outcome ...
... for birthmothers and possibly birthfathers will not be that easy. And as for the baby, he or she will have to go through the pain of losing his or her life just so a birth mother can try to avoid some pain in her own.

Certainly the birth father's feelings should be considered in this process. His fears and concerns should be addressed. But more than ten thousand studies show that a loving, two-parent home is best for a baby. If he is not prepared to provide this, he should know that adoption is an excellent choice. There is no shame in a father placing his son or daughter in a loving home that is not his own if he is not in the best position to offer the necessary financial, emotional and spiritual stability for his child. The father's legal rights will vary from state to state. and can be check out through any adoption agency. But, he can always step up to the plate by supporting the birth mother in whatever decision she makes, whether it be parenting or adoption.

If you, a friend, or family member are a birth mother in an unwanted pregnancy situation and are considering placing a child for adoption, please visit http://eternaladoptions.org/category/birth-mother-help/ for pregnancy resources, birth mother help and support, information on locating potential adoptive parent profiles and other adoption related help and advice.

It is important for birthmothers in crisis or unexpected pregnancy situations to have help to make informed decisions about parenting, abortion, or placing their child for adoption. Through past experience we can educate birthmothers in need of help and support.