Is The Mind Willing?

By Author: Steven Johnson
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When you're young, sex always seems quite easy. You have a willing partner who helps things along if you're having any problems in making a connection. It all just seems to happens as it's supposed to. But, as you get older, it can all seem more challenging. The body gets cranky with unexpected pains in the back and tiring muscles in some positions. Partners can sometimes seem less than helpful. For whatever reason, penetration slowly becomes more difficult and staying connected. . . Well, let's just say, that can become embarrassing. You can hear her muttering under her breath sometimes as you have to reestablish the connection yet again. What used to be yet another of those successful nights grows into more a duty. It's no longer something so special. You're no longer the top performance. She's not getting the ultimate in satisfaction.

You know it's paranoid when you start worrying about whether you're big enough, whether you can stay hard enough for long enough. Why should you worry? You've always been big and hard enough in the past. She's always had at least one orgasm (assuming she wasn't faking it). That faking ...
... it. . . That's always between other couples, right? Slowly, you can talk yourself into performance anxiety.

You'd be surprised how common it is. There's absolutely nothing wrong physically. No accident with a kitchen appliance has cut off vital bits. But the mind loses its nerve. You start finding excuses not to have sex. Can you imagine doing that when you were younger? Well, low self-esteem can come along and stay any time. If you can see the quality of your relationship suffering, this increases the pressure. Failure starts becoming a self-fulfilling prophesy.

OK, so here comes the exciting new research findings. About 30% of men do not always respond to the as-needed erectile dysfunction drugs. They have these undercover operators who lurk outside bedroom windows and hotel doors to count how many times there's a happy roar of Yes! as against a sad silence. Almost one-third of attempts end in that silence. No matter how great the reputation of these drugs, how glowing the word-of-mouth endorsements, your own mind can be your biggest enemy.

The Italian researchers have therefore turned their steely gaze to the once-daily version of Cialis. They reason that, if the problem is one of performance anxiety, building up to that one special night and planning the taking of the pill simply increases the stakes in the mind. All these special preparations set up up for yet another failure. The once-daily version of Cialis is a routine. As the name suggests, this is a low-dose approach to keep the level of the active drugs at a steady level in the bloodstream. It allows for spontaneity. You remember that? Those accidental moments when you and your partners found yourself in the mood in unexpected places. . . Well, the body only responds if the mind is in the mood. That can happen any time. It's not predictable. So, with once-daily Cialis in your system, you can get back into sex whenever you do find yourself in the mood (as long as your partner is cooperating, of course). It's a good theory, even if it is Italian. So, if you do find the as-needed version is unsuccessful, switch to the once-daily and go with the flow.