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By Author: Michelle Stanley
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Hi, I'm Michelle Stanley with Moksha Living, and over the last four years, I have been helping women to attract intimate partnership outside of online dating. And now that we are in the middle of a pandemic, I want to be able to share with you all what I have seen and has helped women and men. But I'm going to focus on women, be successful in online dating. So when I say successful, I mean that the women that I've worked with in a high number, I would say like 95% percent of the women that I've worked with in the last year have gone on or have dated fewer than five people.

And of those five people that they've dated through online dating, one of those people has resulted in a long term relationship and a lot of the women that have dated are like now in long term relationships, either moving in or living with their partner and planning for marriage. So it can happen and this is a really different outcome than what I see a lot of other women are having where they're going on like two hundred and fifty dates in a year, none of them are working out. People are ghosting on them and their energy is down and they're getting ...
... disappointed and devastated about whether love is even possible for them.

So I want to share with you what I've worked with, with the women that I have seen success with so that you can start to do that in your own life. So, number one, the thing that I think makes the difference between a woman that is entering into the dating game and in a confident place, is that you have to give yourself a grieving period between when your last relationship ended and the next one begins.

Online dating gives us a way to fill that space, whether we're looking for a relationship or not, we can start swiping or interacting with someone without actually having done any type of grieving or what I say, "restoring your sense of lovability", that equilibrium that you have before you got into a relationship where you know that you're OK being alone, where you know that you're OK with or without a relationship. So I just want to remind you that it's normal when anyone gets out of a relationship that your body and your mind is used to having that person around and your mind actually anticipates that that person is going to be there.

That's normal. And so your mind and body is actually going to have a vacuum. It wants something to fill that space. And if you if you don't give yourself the time to heal that, you take that energy into into dating and you may not be conscious of it, but that energetic feeling mirrors or it's very similar to desperation. So whether you are feeling desperate yourself or whether other people are picking up on it, that energy of not actually dealing with your loss and restoring your love ability looks and feels similar to desperation.

And you don't want to bring that into your dating life because dating is about being an energetic match to what you want. And if you are putting out in any way desperation, that's not an energetic match to what you want to attract. So the second thing that I'm going to talk about is about being an energetic match requires attraction. It is an attraction game. And when we start thinking about online dating, we've made attraction into a numbers game.

And so we're totally taking our ability to connect and our ability to be attracted to someone. We're taking it out of the picture. And where attraction needs to begin is with aligning with your sense of lovability or your sense of confidence. And you can't do that if you haven't taken the chance to grieve your last relationship because you're still a little needy to fill that void. And the second thing is, is that men, because they number one, they're pulled by physical attraction.

And there's much more beautiful, attractive, physically attractive women out there than there are men. Women have to learn to identify the things that attract them to men other than the physical, whereas men, because there's just so many more beautiful women out there, can just rely on the physical part, especially in online dating. But women, we just there's just not that many options out there. So we have to learn how to get our connection and feel connection and feel attraction to people other than through the physical realm.

And so I've got a couple of resources here, one including a resilience webinar, and the other one is a chemistry Kickstarter. So I would love for you to take a look at these resources so that you can not just be healthy and calm during this pandemic, but also to be connected and maybe even find the love of your life. All right, I will look forward to hearing from you. And until then, take care.