Self-pleasuring One-on-one: Letting A Partner Watch

By Author: John Dugan
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Although a child’s very first experiences with self-pleasuring tend to be public, occurring as a baby when they simply discover some pleasure from manipulating their privates, it isn’t long before they are taught that self-pleasuring is not something to be openly shared. While socially this is true, it does of course create a situation in which people are afraid to self-stimulate in front of anyone else, even a partner who loves them very much. Self-pleasuring, of course, is involved in a comprehensive male organ health regimen to varying degrees, and there’s a lot that a partner can learn from witnessing how their mate self-gratifies.

Letting a partner watch him self-stimulate, or especially inviting a partner to watch him, can be awkward for many (though not all) men. It also is likely to be more difficult for a man who is involved sensually with a woman, rather than one whose partner is another man (although some gay men experience similar hesitancies about self-pleasuring as their straight counterparts; every individual is different, after all.) But it can also be beneficial in several ways:

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... can bring a couple closer. Ironically, since self-pleasuring is usually thought of as something which a man does all by himself, in many cases the act of manipulating one’s member for pleasure in front of a partner can actually strengthen the bond of intimacy in a relationship. By sharing his self-pleasuring, a man is opening up a very private part of himself. He is exposing some form of vulnerability. By doing so, he is acknowledging that he implicitly trusts the person watching him with a part of himself that he is not willing to open up to most people.

- It can teach a partner a great deal. Although a woman who has been a man’s partner for a long time undoubtedly knows many sensual secrets and tricks about him, there are still likely to be many things she does not know. (The same applies to men with male partners as well.) Often, the things she can learn from watching a man self-gratify may have more to do with detail or nuance than "big picture" lessons. For example, perhaps she notices that when he self-fondles, he squeezes the head of the manhood more rapidly just as he is approaching release, or that he strokes the underside of his shaft with two fingers just after it becomes firm. These tips can be incorporated into their own sensual activities.

- It can teach a man a great deal. Sometimes a man can also learn about himself from self-pleasuring in front of a partner. He can pinpoint specific emotions that it arouses and how he reacts to them. He may discover that, despite his best efforts to be "natural," he feels self-conscious self-stimulating in front of someone - and that’s okay. Or he may feel he has to "perform" somewhat, rather than simply sit back and be himself - and that’s okay, too. Or he may have the opposite experience and find that he became even more at ease, more natural because he let himself self-fondle willingly for a partner. Whatever reactions he has, they can be valuable and enable him to learn more about himself.

Most men will find self-pleasuring in front of a partner easier if he knows his manhood is in good shape, a result of regularly using a first rate male organ health oil (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin). Like the rest of the body, the member needs vitamins to enrich and empower it, so the best oil should include important vitamins like A, B5, C, D and E. In addition, that oil should provide access to alpha lipoic acid, a powerful antioxidant which battles oxidative stress and the damage that can inflict on sensitive male organ skin.

Visit www.menshealthfirst.com for more information about treating common male organ health problems, including soreness, redness and loss of male organ sensation. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous online web sites.