A Self-pleasuring Coach: Yes Or No?

By Author: John Dugan
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One of the great things - or one of the many great things - about self-pleasuring is that it doesn’t require training. People instinctively teach themselves how to self-stimulate. Sure, guys may discover different ways to self-stimulate, but the basic means of self-pleasuring are pretty much self-taught. And while there can be some male organ health issues - most guys have rubbed themselves raw from too-intense self-pleasuring at some time or other - it’s generally a safe way to pass the time sensually. So it may be surprising to learn that some men consult a coach to help them more fully experience their self-pleasuring.

Why the need?

Many men would ask, why consult a self-pleasuring coach? What’s the point? And indeed, a man can continue to self-stimulate his entire life without a coach and have a perfectly fine solo-sensual life.

But some men may find that they want more from their self-pleasuring experience or may feel that they’ve become bored with the way in which they self-gratify. The latter certainly makes sense. Most men start self-gratifying in adolescence and continue doing ...
... so throughout their lives. Some self-pleasure only occasionally, others several times a day. And for many, they self-pleasure the same way at 35 years of age (or 55 or 75) as they did at 15, although the frequency may have changed somewhat.

But people change over 20, 40, 60 years. Most men don’t have the same favorite food or drink that they did when they were 15, or read the same books, or have the same haircut. But many still self-stimulate the same way as they did decades ago.

So fast

And often that means that their self-pleasuring experience is a fast one. As teenagers, most guys (1) are so easily and strongly stimulated that they can’t wait to release seed and (2) have to hurry up anyway, as they don’t want to get caught self-gratifying. And that continues into adulthood; one study indicates that three-quarters of men release seed within 2 minutes of starting to self-stimulate.

As adults, men are more likely to have more time to enjoy self-pleasuring. Yet some have a difficult time breaking old habits. Seeing a self-pleasuring coach can be beneficial to making their self-pleasuring experience more fulfilling and enjoyable.

Formally known as sensuological bodyworkers, self-pleasuring coaches are recognized as legitimate businesses only in the state of California, but they can be found in many states. (Since they are not regulated, one should be careful in selecting one and do some background investigations.) In general, in order to help a man get more out of their self-pleasuring, a coach will work with them on being more "mindful" and in the moment while self-fondling. (However, it should be noted that a good self-pleasuring coach will ask a client what it is that HE is seeking and let his goals and needs determine the approach that is needed. Mindful self-pleasuring is useful for attaining many different goals, but not all.)

A coach may utilize breathing exercises, visualizations, massage (including massage of the privates), and many other techniques. In general, the idea is to stop looking at self-pleasuring as a fun activity that has to be rushed through and that is all about the member, and to look at it as an experience that one should luxuriate in, give time to, and employ all of the sensual zones of the body rather than just simply the manhood. The coach will watch the man as he self-stimulates and offer suggestions and guidance on how to make the experience more fulfilling.

Some men find benefits from one session, others may want to take a series of sessions. It all depends on a man’s individual needs.

Not every man wants or needs a self-pleasuring coach, but they all need a healthy member - so regular use of a first-rate male organ health oil (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) is crucial. Be prepared for self-pleasuring by using an oil that contains moisturizing ingredients like shea butter and vitamin E in case the skin gets rubbed a little raw. The oil should also include L-carnitine, which helps maintain sensation in a rubbed-raw manhood.

Visit www.menshealthfirst.com for more information about treating common male organ health problems, including soreness, redness and loss of male organ sensation. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous online web sites.